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Friday, November 26, 2010

Guys who listen to what women SAY they want in men...or women who listen to what guys SAY they want from women...are headed for trouble.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Steve...please elaborate. Give some specific examples. Thanks.

Mike said...

I'm just revisiting Dar Kush after a couple of months and have to reread/think about Steve's post(1-2 wks previous) about Tournament and Pair Bonding behavior. I think this is what his comment here is about.
Steve?

Anonymous said...

I am a woman who is not attracted to jerks. When I was an adolescent girl, I did not date jerks - I was bullied by jerks!

I want (and know I'm not entitled to, and thankful that I have enough job skills and safety nets to survive without) a man who is (in addition to a few other attractive things) genuinely *nice*, not merely nice to women who want jerks and jerks to women like me who want nice men (for example: when a man says that *all* women only want jerks, instead of saying that the women *to whom he is attracted* only want jerks, then he's being a jerk to the rest of us by denying that we even exist).

I'd rather date a man who is nice to me than be single *and* I'd rather be single than date (or worse yet, depend on!) a man who is a jerk to me.

Do you think a guy is headed for trouble if he is attracted to me and listens to what I just said, instead of being attracted to me, ignoring what I just said, and being a jerk to me?

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