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Friday, July 30, 2010

The <i>Real</i> Reason Couples Divorce

Fear kills love. A beautiful article detailing another way of understanding how "fear and love compete for the same place in our hearts." A couple that wants to survive will DELIBERATELY create bonding moments (sex, play, planning, meditation, exercise, prayer, family time) understanding that under stress, ego will do all it can to blame the "other." And that other people start looking mighty good--until you're in a relationship with 'em. Remember: no matter where you go, there you are. The only thing in common in your past relationships is that YOU were there. Take responsibility. Start with loving yourself and acknowledging that you are afraid and lonely. That honesty, once embraced, can guide you for the rest of your life.
Read the Article at HuffingtonPost

1 comment:

Brother OMi said...

I finally listened to Erykah Badu's latest CD... again another masterpiece.

she has a skit where she says there are two emotions "fear and love" ...
then i read this post...