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Author, Teacher, Screenwriter

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

My children are not my possessions: it is my job to deliver them safely to their future.

Being able to accept love is as important as being able to give it.

When did you stop enjoy living inside your body? What stands between you and a joyous, energetic, sensuous existence?

Change Your Body, Change Your Destiny

(Anyone who has been following me for the last twenty years knows that I've been working to integrate a full body-mind approach. The breakdown was that I could find no physical technique powerful enough to complement the mental and emotional aspects of LIFEWRITING. That...has changed. I've known International Martial Arts champion Scott for eight years, been been both student and friend of this remarkable man. For the last year, we've been working on an integration of our approaches to body-mind fitness, and are finally ready to share the results. Before TACFIT Warrior is released to the general public, here's last your chance to become part of something very special, VERY exclusive, and very profitable...)


TACFIT $5,000 Giveaway: Forge your Body-Forge your Destiny

Don't let the $5,000 be the ONLY reason that you transform your life. Sure, being given five grand will certainly encourage someone to take a leap, but it's only a bridge to recapturing the limitless potential of intrinsic motivation. But before we can feel intrinsically motivated, we need to be able to change our untrackable, unpredictable and undesirable habits.

Want to know how to change any behavior, any habit? We made a promise, and here's the answer:


1. Identify the habit you wish to change.

2. Identify what you want to change it to.

3. Raise your energy level.

4. Practice the new habit.

5. Fail successfully.

6. Start over again.

Not only has this process been instrumental in taking my business from out of the garage 15 years ago, to an international organization with gyms and centers worldwide... not only has it transformed my mental faculties from severe learning disability to becoming a keynote speaker for MENSA, FLETC and the NSCA... not only has it resurrected me from being deemed physiologically double my chronological age to HALF, but it is a repeatable, trackable, predictable, knowable science that thousands of students of mine have used for success in their lives.

Unfortunately, most people fail because they:

1. Know what they don't want, but not what they want.

2. Don't raise their energy level before attempting the change.

3. Don't understand the cyclical nature of life: you have to fall off the horse many times before you really learn to ride.

Anyone who has maintained a regular exercise routine knows these things, organically: in other words, they already know everything they need to know to succeed at anything they may ever wish to be, have, or do in life. The secret of how to transfer those skills from one arena to another has been hidden...

Until now. Beginning tomorrow, you will discover TACFIT Warrior: The Science of Mind-Body Exercise

And your life may never be the same.

(Pssst! Want a peek at the future? Did you know that certain types of exercise can actually improve cognitive function -- can actually make you SMARTER? Tomorrow, you'll have your chance to download a TOTALLY FREE mind-body workout challenge, just a little "peek" at the kind of exercise program your grandchildren will take for granted!)

And with that sneak peak, we are one day closer to the most radical fitness contest in the history of the internet... check out this video for clues on how you'll become the owner of 5Gs (and much more as a result)!

Who Dares Wins,
Scott Sonnon

Monday, November 29, 2010

"The constant effort to obey in all the ways we know and understand, will reveal the evidence of new growth of the soul." Patanjali

TACFIT Warrior is almost here...

You guys know I've been promoting the idea of a body/mind connection for years. This is the very very first time I've ever been able to put the whole thing together in one package. Frankly, I couldn't do it by myself--I needed an expert in physical training, and Scott Sonnon is the best I've ever found.'s the second peek at what we're doing, as well as "Insider Access" to the $5,000 Giveaway. This is something very special--there has never been a program like this, or an opportunity like this. Click here or keep read more----->

When Scott Sonnon decided to risk it all at the World Martial Arts Games in Las Vegas on a mad attempt to finally, once and for all, prove that something he had used since childhood, something validated by his Russian coaches... something he had proven in coaching of Russian Spetznaz, Israeli Special Forces, US Marshals, and other elite teams around the world... could accomplish the "impossible" in the civilian world... and was prepared to risk the company he'd spent well over a decade creating (imagine the crowing of his internet critics if he'd lost! The YouTube videos would have gone viral in minutes)... his laconic Russian business partner had just nine words for he:

"Well... I guess you'd better win then, hadn't you?"

To have any hope of this he needed a team, a KILLER team of coaches, people with more than mere skills. He had to be able to trust them implicitly, because they would literally have his life in their hands. And as important as the various physical coaches would be, his mental fitness would be just as critical.

And I am honored beyond belief that I was chosen to stand beside him.

I wear a lot of hats. Besides being a New York Times bestselling writer, I have a coaching credential in Scott's exclusive Circular Strength Training system, as well as a Master level hypnotist credential, work as a life coach, and am former Kung Fu columnist for Black Belt Magazine. A yoga and tai chi instructor, I also have three black belts, and have lectured on the structure of myth and consciousness at the Smithsonian Institute in Washington, D.C. At the prestigious Moonview Clinic in Santa Monica, California, I've provided stress counseling and physical integration support for movie stars, princes, and captains of industry.

And I had theories of my own, worked out over forty years of study. I'd taught pieces of it to thousands of Lifewriting and Tai Chi students...but never had the chance to put it all together.

Scott and I have been friends for years, together created the breakthrough Path Workshops, where we shared a very tiny cluster of high-level technologies with a select group before tucking those radical ideas back "in the vault" for years for further testing. Despite fantastic, life-altering results, more integration was needed: we wanted a "turn-key" system, where clients could expect maximum results for minimum time and sweat.

Now the final moment had come, and Scott believed that I had the skills and the heart to help him on this critical passage. For ten months, we worked together closely. I wanted to be certain that Scott's goals were clear, and in alignment with his values, beliefs, and emotions; that he was taking this risk not for ego, but for higher goals that would inspire him through the inevitable fatigue and discouragement to come.

We were also clear on another "hidden" goal, one which, in all honesty, would not be revealed to the public unless things went well in Vegas.

And what happened...?

Scott came home with a locked jaw, a dislocated rib, a herniated spine, a loose tooth, total exhaustion, and... FOUR gold medals, a silver, and a bronze!

The truth was evident. Inarguable. The stage was set.

And we were ready to create something new. Something that had never existed before, for which the entire scope of previous RMAX productions had only been a foundation, and that my own LIFEWRITING, Hero's Journey, and other teachings had never been able to nail down--I hadn't possessed the right PHYSICAL "core" for my work. That issue no longer existed.

We wanted to have done the work for you, my friends. To make it so simple to succeed that all you have to add is sweat.

Click for a clue!

(Pssst: want to know how to change any bad habit, and gain any new one? Stay tuned tomorrow and you'll get the secret -- totally FREE!)

Be The Hero In The Adventure of your lifetime!

Steven Barnes

Sunday, November 28, 2010

YOUR Chance to Go For The Gold!

All right...I've been busy as heck for the last year. ..and we're finally ready to peel back the curtain and let everyone see what Scott Sonnon and I have been up to. You'll have the chance to get a totally free workout, earn a chance at 5000.00, and be the first to see what I honestly believe to be the most advanced body/mind product ever created. Hell, it might be the FIRST real body-mind product, in several critical ways. Here you go...


On September 18th, 2010, a 40 year old athlete, retired due to physical and psychological trauma, exited that retirement and entered the World Martial Arts Games in Las Vegas Nevada, against some of the finest competition on Earth.

At stake? Merely everything: his body, his reputation, and the company he had spent a decade building. Some said it was for the Gold medals, some for glory, and some for the sheer honor of honest competition. All of that was true, but there was something else that few suspected.

After twenty years of study...ten months of grueling training...two days of soul-shredding exhaustion and all-out, flesh-tearing, competition against behemoths ten years younger and 100 pounds heavier...

He had done something no one in the audience, and none of his competition ever suspected: proven something critical, in the most pitiless laboratory on Earth. And only then was he ready to share it with the public.

What was it? All we'll say is that you won't have to pay the price Scott Sonnon paid. And it won't take you twenty years.

You only have to wait a few more days...and take a chance at winning F I V E T H O U S A N D D O L L A R S.

We're still keeping our cards close to the vest, but you can learn just a little more...HERE

Friday, November 26, 2010

Guys who listen to what women SAY they want in men...or women who listen to what guys SAY they want from women...are headed for trouble.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Every day I work, work out, and find a way to tell the people I love that I love them. Every single day. It brings me enormous joy.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Never miss a chance to tell the people you love that you love them. Never forget that one hug, one smile, one kiss...will be the last.

I am rather OCD, but because my actions are distributed between body, career, and relationships, people think it's healthy and cool.

Friday, November 19, 2010

Step #7: Dark Night of the Soul

Dark Night of the Soul

"My soul is full of discord and dismay..."

The Dark Night of the Soul is the moment when it feels that all of our abilities and efforts will be insufficient to meet the task at hand. In "Hamlet," there are many such moments, but one that clearly looms large is his accidental murder of Polonius, an old retainer listening behind the curtains as Hamlet upbraids his mother.

His mother Queen Gertrude believes her son is deeply shamed, and she's probably right. In addition to shame, however, there is self-doubt, homicidal fury and doubtless other emotions all mixed together. Powerful emotions cloud reason and perception, making it difficult to see options that are directly in front of us. Who among us has not had such moment? In fact, it is almost impossible to achieve anything of worth without cycling through moments of exultation and depression. One of the most fascinating things is that we tend to have selective amnesia. We just don't remember that the depression is part of the cycle, and we come through it, we survive, and go on with our lives. And that lack of memory is probably a tool of the ego: after all, if we remembered that we had had survived failures and disappointments in the past, we wouldn't be afraid of the future and might, just MIGHT actually act with courage and decisiveness. And if we did that, we would change.

And of course, our egos can't stand THAT.

Here's a trick that has worked for my clients: the next time you're feeling GREAT, write a letter or record a your future self. Heck, you know you're going to be depressed again, why kid yourself? So create a message to that depressed "you", telling yourself whatever you'll need to hear to get yourself going again. Then, either give the letter to a friend, or tuck it away safely, to be used the next time eating Draino starts looking good.

You'll be amazed at the results!


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Thursday, November 18, 2010

"When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bounds"--Patanjali

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Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Pun of the day...
"Silent, grim, colossal, the big city has ever stood against its revilers. They call it hard as iron; they say that no pulse of pity beats in its bosom; they compare its streets with lonely forests and deserts of lava. But beneath the hard crust of the lobster is found a delectable and luscious food. Perhaps a different simile would have been wiser. Still, nobody should take offense. We would call no one a lobster without good and sufficient claws."--O.Henry, "Between Rounds"

Monday, November 15, 2010

I'm revisiting one of my favorite old books with an eye to sequel...or a story extending a premise established by my younger self. Tricky.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

What the Dalai Lama Taught Us About Transforming Our Negative Mind

Attack the problem at its root: beneath anger, greed, and the need for power over others is one root emotion: fear. Deal with the fear in yourself, and you have no need to believe the masks worn by others. See them clearly, and it is easier to address that core issue, unmoved by their excuses and obfuscations. Fear and love compete for the same place in our hearts, and the hearts of others.
Read the Article at HuffingtonPost

Monday, November 08, 2010

Choose your tribe carefully

One division of animal species is pertinent to human behavior, especially when it comes to finding lasting love.

"Tournament" species and "Pair Bonding" species are very different in sexual behavior. "Tournament" species males and females have a low threshold of sexual activity: males will jump on anything, as frequently as possible. "Tournament" females will mate with a variety of different males, demanding little fidelity or investment of resources. Needless to say, the "Tournament" males don't stick around to raise the kids--it simply doesn't make sense in terms of energy investment.

"Pair Bonded" species, on the other hand, have more elaborate mating rituals. Males and females are far pickier. They pay attention to the behavior of their prospective mates, selecting for those who will make good parents, and stick around to raise the kids. Such species include those who mate for life, and engage in far less "cheating." Females insist on males building nests, providing protein, and exhibiting the capacity to bond to and raise children. is quite tempting to ask what happens if we apply these two categories to human beings. Humans, clearly, have the ability to go either way on this one. I recently monitored a series of Facebook exchanges by women who are disenchanted with the males in their lives, considering men a waste of time. They proposed simply getting pregnant, and "raising the next generation of men" themselves, to create the kind of men they want.

Right. Men raised by women without the slightest capacity to find bonded relationships, and are hostile toward men. Who are, in essence, deluded. Imagine how delighted I'd be if I heard a group of men, unhappy with women, hatching a plot to adopt girl-children to raise "the next generation of women" according to their own twisted needs. The horror. The horror.

That is all the dysfunction anyone could ever want to find. And even if you aren't interested in having kids, the lesson is clear: if you want to find lasting love, it would seem non-optimal to behave like a member of the Tournament tribe. Our hindbrains aren't good at fine distinctions. That means that males who push for sex rapidly, who jump from partner to partner, and have previous children they aren't engaged in raising are BAD choices if you want a lasting love, girls.

And I hate to say this, but those women who jump in and out of bed quickly, who insist on being "just as sexually aggressive as men" and have had trouble implementing birth control are simply RADIATING "Tournament" tribe. While there are exceptions to such rules, it suggests some pretty simple rules if what you're looking for is a long-term relationship.

Tananarive and I did a LOT of work before finding each other. She made a commitment not to become intimate with a man who didn't love her, who wasn't looking for a long term relationship. I hadn't gone quite that far--but I clearly remember the night before we met. I had had the "best" day of my life in terms of attracting women. I was in the groove, firmly in the Tournament Tribe vibe. I can't put this delicately: women were falling all over themselves, giving me their phone numbers, writing me love poems within an hour of meeting them.

It was amazing. I'd hit a Vibe I'd been looking for my whole life, and it terrified me. I could see the void opening to swallow me, the very void Oscar Brown Jr. wrote about in his life-saving song "Ladie's Man""

"Back as a boy, I longed to be

The fella women loved to see

and have them all consider me

A Ladie's Man..."

And this verse led inevitably to the morose:

"What tricky trade might I have tried

Had I not laid preoccupied

But then, who's ever satisfied

A Ladie's Man..."

My dear friend Gordon Lewis played this song for me when I was about 22. Only took me 25 years to grasp the truth of it.

Oh, yeah. An infinite succession of no end at all. And in my lonely room, I literally dropped to my knees and prayed. I knew that this was not what I wanted. What I wanted was a partner, a help-mate, someone I could really be myself with, reveal my deepest essence.

And I could feel, right then and there, that the only way I would ever find it is if I was willing to wait my whole life, if necessary. And I meant it. And never had a chance to find out just exactly what that meant, in behavior...because the very next morning, I met Tananarive.

Choose tribes, people. Be sure you'll be happy with the results...and make your choice.

Sunday, November 07, 2010

I extend the assumption of equality to anyone who does the same. But if your theory of gender, race or politics depends upon "the other" being morally or intellectually inferior to you...I reserve the right to look at your finances, physical condition and relationship history to see if you are quite as special as you seem to think you are.

Saturday, November 06, 2010

in the end we go to poetry for one reason, so that we might more fully inhabit our lives and the world in which we live them-- Wiman

Friday, November 05, 2010

The Bad News: Obama's trip to India WILL cost 200 million a day! The good news: that number is in Rupees, not dollars.

We are driven more by emotion than logic. If you don't work to clear your perceptual filters, you will be controlled by them.

Thursday, November 04, 2010

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Wednesday, November 03, 2010

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Tuesday, November 02, 2010

Do Positive People Live Longer?

External events do not control our moods--our perceptual filters and beliefs do. We can be miserable in a palace, or find bliss in a windowless cell. Adults are responsible for finding and maintaining joy in their lives. Children blame their parents, friends, and society. The choice is up to you.
Read the Article at HuffingtonPost

Monday, November 01, 2010

How many hugs do you need every day to feel fully alive? For me...about five.