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Monday, October 06, 2014

Using the Ancient child

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I’ve been working and testing the “Ancient Child” technique for about five years now, and what people asked for was a fuller explanation, as well as a “plug and play” approach to using it.    I’ve done that, and it will be available very soon, on the new blog I’ve been creating with Wordpress guru Lorelle VanFossen.  

Let’s discuss one application of the technique: emotional abuse.  Especially if the abuse originated in childhood, this can be devastating.  A parent who damages heart and body, or fails to provide protection for same, changes the profoundly important relationship with your core self, affecting:

  1. Ambition
  2. Self-love
  3. Ability to find honest healthy relationships
  4. Self-discipline (why bother if you aren’t worth it?)
  5. Co-dependency
  6. Creativity
  7. Artistic success (which is a balance between “creative child” and “marketing/agenting adult)
  8. Body composition issues (obesity and anorexia)
  9. Self-damaging (cutting, etc.)
  10. Drug and alcohol abuse
  11. Sexual issues

And much much more.  The “Ancient Child” technique can have a powerful effect here, because the “child” image you create is, specifically, a representation of the child you were BEFORE the abuse began.   (Note: if you have serious abuse issues, please seek therapeutic assistance.   Your  therapist should be aware of what you intend to do here)

What you have to do is:

  1. Enter a state of deep relaxation.   Meditation or self-hypnosis.
  2. Connect with your own heartbeat and “source of love.”
  3. Visualize the child self.
  4. Connect with the child self: visualize holding, hugging, playing with.   
  5. Remember the first time you held your own child, or held a baby sister, brother, or cousin.    Find the “protective” door in your mind, even if it was only for a puppy or kitten.   It’s there.  You have the wiring.  Or: remember/imagine being held and nurtured in infancy.   EVERYONE was, whether you can remember it or not.  Human beings who are not nurtured in infancy DO NOT SURVIVE.  You may have blanked it out...but it happened. Find it.  Meditate and search within yourself until you can find this strand of love, unbroken through the generations, back to the beginning of our species.
  6. Commit to being your own mother/father.  To DIE before you let anyone else hurt that child again.  To protecting her dreams and hopes.    To spending every day loving and nurturing.  
  7. Tell her/him.  Say the words. Speak them aloud: “You are the most precious thing in all the world.  Daddy is here, and I will never leave you alone again.”
  8. Listen to what that “child” self has to say in  return.   See if there is a conversation to be conducted.
  9. After you have emerged from your relaxed state, use your non-dominant hand (your left, if you are right-handed) to write a letter FROM your “child” to your current, adult self.  Read it aloud.

This process can be of stupendous benefit.  Please, please--even if you are “healthy” you will find it useful to connect to your creativity and aliveness.  But if, like most of us, you’ve been banged up by life or have issues with parents, it is close to miraculous.


The process was given to me by a succession of phenomenally wise men and women.  And now...it is yours.

Namaste
Steve

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