What I do with Jason’s morning ritual is to implant generative
patterns he can use to guide and evaluate his behaviors. The “morning
ritual” is critical, and I’m hoping to implant a habit for lifetime
(although the specific techniques will shift, I’m sure.)
The most important things this morning were:
1) interrupting the non-resourceful behaviors. (Bowing, sitting seiza)
2) Anchoring love and confidence (morning hug)
3) Calming his energy levels (10 “omm” patterns with deep breathing”
4) Reminding him of his resourceful states, principles and values (Musashi’s principles, “the rules”
5)
“Killing the monster while it’s small”—“swish” patterns, envisioning a
negative behavior and SMASHING the image with an expanding image of a
hyper-resourceful behavior. Again and again. Faster and faster.
7) When highest-energy, positive, and centered he pumps his fist and yells “YES!” anchoring in that positive state.
“Killing
the monster while it’s small” means to attack the root of a negative
behavior. Before he has what we call a “brain fart” he will begin to
distort his body into odd positions. His vocal quality will shift, he
starts acting goofy. This leads to a hyper-excitable and sensitive
state in which “he wants what he wants” and the slightest disappointment
can trigger upset.
By this time, it is too late for conscious
control. But BEFORE this point, he can take control again by sitting
upright and calming his breathing, doing a “swish” pattern, or pumping
his fist and saying “YES!” NOTE: the efficiency of a fired “anchor” is
in direct relationship to how much you have “powered it up” earlier, and
the uniqueness of the anchor.
He is learning to recognize the
early stages of a tantrum, while “the monster is still small” and crush
it, replacing it with a positive, resourceful state. This is very
similar to recognizing when he is at a “3” on a scale of 1-10, “3” being
a little tickle in his bladder, but an “8” meaning he has 30 seconds to
get to a toilet.
If you study your own mind, looking at any
unresourceful behavior, you’ll notice that there are precursive actions,
feelings, and thoughts. Smoking. Cheating. Writers’ block. Begin
to examine how you “do” them. What you do first, second and third to
“accomplish” an unresourceful state.
Trust me…you have a recipe for
any state or behavior in your life, positive or negative. And if you
can deliberately change that recipe by changing your physiology, mental
focus or emotional state (I work all three with Jason!) you can derail
the process.
Be a dragon-slayer.
But kill it in the nest
Namaste,
Steve
Friday, August 30, 2013
Kill the monster while it's small
Posted by Steven Barnes at 5:12 AM
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