Why Talk to the Tree?

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A reasonable person might ask what the use of exercises like "talking to the trees." Especially if you have deep-seated deservement or "Impostor Syndrome" issues, talk about finding your true self can be confusing, depressing, even frightening. If you believe that at the core of what you are you are an evil or twisted thing, better to stay with the ego-shields, right?

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Well, from the Lifewriting perspective, dead wrong. Under sufficient pressure, your true self will be revealed. And if you have built a life, a career, a relationship based on a false image, the truth can shatter your existence.

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Now, from my perspective, there is virtually no down-side. But then, I feel that our deepest and truest essence is that thing we call Love. Everything other than love that we feel or experience is part of the illusion. There are many routes to wholeness, to being an awakened adult. The route we talk about here is to take goals in all three major arenas, proceed toward them, and then deal with the stress that arises as you do. IF you are balanced enough to prevent the stress from becoming strain, the only way your mind, heart, and spirit can respond is by growing. In the process of solving the problems you encounter, you must become awake and adult, taking responsibility for your physical existence, your career, your relationships. Remember: it is EASY to succeed in one or two of life's arenas. It is a pure bitch-kitty getting all three of them going at the same time. After a while, sustaining that balance is tough, but a natural way of being. And then, at some point, you barely remember ever living any other way.

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1) Do what you love, or love what you do. Your career/job should be a place of contribution and joy. Heck, you spend about half your waking hours associated with it--might as well enjoy yourself! And by the way...aim at making enough money to support yourself and one other human being. Frankly, if you don't have this much focus, you shouldn't be having sex.

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2) Physical fitness, energy, aliveness, and a body in alignment with your own values. If you don't find you attractive, why should anyone else?

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3) A loving, committed relationship with a significant other. Children, neighbors, pets, parents or siblings don't count here. The rules are different. With a husband, wife, long-term lover, you have to DEAL WITH YOUR SHIT. You can't just tell them what to do, or walk away without leaving a tell-tale string of wreckage.

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The "Talk to the Trees" exercise strips away much of the b.s. What remains is much closer to the real you. Use that as your bedrock for future changes. In meditations, seek this same core truth. Then, go beyond.