tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post5997681696098405176..comments2024-03-25T17:38:55.490-07:00Comments on Dar Kush: The Same Garbage In Different BagsSteven Barneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-30146726693303656862018-07-08T06:56:22.947-07:002018-07-08T06:56:22.947-07:00I like this post, it's almost like an emotiona...I like this post, it's almost like an emotional boot camp for personal ambition. <br /><br />In reference to your question, "Would you accept that excuse from your children?" Sadly, from my experience, many parents DO accept these poor excuses from their children and even help to bully others into accepting these excuses for their child, not allowing their children to "grow up" so to speak, find their own way, etc. If a person is not willing to accept responsibility for their own poor choices and actions why in the world would they allow their child to grow up and become a complete and self-sustaining adult? <br /><br /> Madeline Carlislehttps://madelinecarlisle.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-87959293070827269152016-07-04T05:31:55.510-07:002016-07-04T05:31:55.510-07:00Very useful post. This is my first time i visit he...Very useful post. This is my first time i visit here. I found so many interesting stuff in your blog especially its discussion. Really its great article. Keep it up!<br /><a href="http://www.giochi-delle-winx.com/giochi-di-barbie" rel="nofollow">giochi di barbie e la magia della moda</a><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13019307559159787200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-12863176136343643622014-08-10T01:14:39.421-07:002014-08-10T01:14:39.421-07:00you sound like a real dick doucheyou sound like a real dick doucheAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-59932182908115700842012-11-18T17:18:37.375-08:002012-11-18T17:18:37.375-08:00Good read. Cognitive behavioral therapy has been g...Good read. Cognitive behavioral therapy has been gaining more and more traction as one of the best psychological therapies which seems to be the modern application of Dharma.NickolusRodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03869415990252304615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-43926959071315659222008-07-12T11:20:00.000-07:002008-07-12T11:20:00.000-07:00The easiest way I've found to save money is to fin...The easiest way I've found to save money is to find a savings account that is difficult to withdraw from (the one I currently use takes three days to make transfers and withdrawals,) with a higher interest rate and set up an automatic deposit keyed to when your paycheck clears. Once you've got about a month's worth of pay saved up, you'll be surprised at how unwilling you are to part with it. That's usually the point where you'll start actively trying to save as much as you can. Then the question is, "How do I use this money to make more money?"<BR/><BR/>One thing I disagree with is that it's always a choice. In the sense that the only options available are the ones that you know about. When you're stuck in that hand-to-mouth headspace it's very difficult to see a way out of it just because it's probably all you know. That's why people buy lottery tickets, it's what they know in the sense that it's the only way they can conceive of getting money.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-86503535248198865822008-07-09T13:15:00.000-07:002008-07-09T13:15:00.000-07:00Chavo - it's the fastest way to make lots of money...Chavo - it's the fastest way to make lots of money. It's also the least stable. Witness the rise and fall of the "Structured Investment Vehicle" that made the housing crash about 500 times more damaging to the world economy than it should have beenJosh Jasperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441897278413737658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-49553210372591933012008-07-09T08:30:00.000-07:002008-07-09T08:30:00.000-07:00Josh-The overcome/control model is only one model....Josh-<BR/><BR/>The overcome/control model is only one model...<BR/><BR/>Steve-<BR/><BR/>Another good, and timely one. <BR/><BR/>The past couple of years have been major retraining ones for me. I had the experience that once things well and truly fell apart, only then could I see where and what I needed to change. Working on it.<BR/><BR/>Related to most of the comments that have been posted- we really are (or at least I really am) creatures of habit. One of the greatest freedoms I ever found was that I could choose which habits to develop, which to weed out. We are constrained in many ways, but within those constraints we have many choices.Craig B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17291004022577238362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-72086966822110263692008-07-09T08:22:00.000-07:002008-07-09T08:22:00.000-07:00Honesty doesn't mean a lack of discretion. If I s...Honesty doesn't mean a lack of discretion. If I see an ugly baby, I have no obligation to run up to the parents and say so. I can complement something about the way the baby is dressed, or its smile. <BR/>#<BR/>Yes, business analogies with war are often used. And here, I DO believe that you take risks with your personal ethics and clarity when lying is used. Especially if you voluntarily enter into a contract, and then lie about the situation. It's a slippery slope. I do not believe it necessary to lie to succeed in business, although concealing information can be useful--so long as you are not cheating the other person thereby. I know people who disagree with this, think it all a game, and that lying and cheating are perfectly fine. Frankly, I think they are damaging themselves.Steven Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-48050760141023374182008-07-09T06:53:00.000-07:002008-07-09T06:53:00.000-07:00Steve - Dishonesty in business or personal relatio...Steve - <I>Dishonesty in business or personal relationships is a different thing from deception in war or combat, where the object is to overcome or control.</I><BR/><BR/>Wait... in business, the object is frequently to overcome or control. Business/War analogies are really common.Josh Jasperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441897278413737658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-39550379029742958032008-07-09T04:56:00.000-07:002008-07-09T04:56:00.000-07:00Steve: I'm not sure complete honesty is always bes...Steve: I'm not sure complete honesty is always best. Sometimes honesty can be hurtful. One time I was in a mall, and saw something I decided to buy for my wife as a gift. The next day, she told she brought it to work and what a good laugh, she and her girlfriends had over it. It hurt pretty bad. Of course after that I let her pick all her own gifts so maybe it did accomplish something.Marty Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06465745755940914756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-79749543145395465202008-07-08T22:21:00.000-07:002008-07-08T22:21:00.000-07:00Marty - yeah, carbs are tough for weight gain, and...Marty - yeah, carbs are tough for weight gain, and people do crave them. I'm lucky in that I like vegetables. But then, I'm also of the opinion that, if I train myself, I can eventually get myself to like something. That's how I managed to like beer - I hated it until I was 34. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure there's a way can get myself to like working out more often, but I've yet to find t, and I'm not going to kid myself into thinking that, if I really don't like it, I can "just do it".Josh Jasperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441897278413737658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-60126384687649428442008-07-08T21:30:00.000-07:002008-07-08T21:30:00.000-07:00Great post.Lots to think about.Thanks for that.-- ...Great post.<BR/>Lots to think about.<BR/>Thanks for that.<BR/>-- PaulPaul Worthingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17524022616737152888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-6549615816563054262008-07-08T21:20:00.000-07:002008-07-08T21:20:00.000-07:00Pain In The Ass.Pain In The Ass.Mark Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01994430001543710190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-52740063737512564032008-07-08T20:01:00.000-07:002008-07-08T20:01:00.000-07:00What's a PITA?What's a PITA?Steven Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-42245007290979957202008-07-08T18:52:00.000-07:002008-07-08T18:52:00.000-07:00Really, really good, Steve. It's that kind of hon...Really, really good, Steve. It's that kind of honesty that keeps me reading your blog. As a reader it's hard to take in too many of the points at once; too confronting.<BR/> <BR/>Even reading it I found myself trying to recognize patterns of behavior in others, instead of in me, where it's doing the most harm. At 45, I only just started saving money the way I'm supposed to, and I used to use others as my excuse for not doing so sooner.<BR/><BR/>So the challenge in recognizing these universal patterns is not turning into an arrogant, preening PITA. I've seen you do it fairly well, but I still think you're an excepionUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04609895319868838771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-58661447290947305282008-07-08T18:25:00.000-07:002008-07-08T18:25:00.000-07:00Not at all. There are limits to almost any blanket...Not at all. There are limits to almost any blanket statement, and you've pointed out one of them. Dishonesty in business or personal relationships is a different thing from deception in war or combat, where the object is to overcome or control. When the object is mutual benefit, different rules apply. Your critique is well chosen.Steven Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-76636479453686270122008-07-08T17:21:00.000-07:002008-07-08T17:21:00.000-07:00> I grasp you think I have #5 backwards, but I mea...> I grasp you think I have #5 backwards, but I meant what I said.<BR/><BR/>If that were the case, and if deceit is the foremost skill in warfare (as Sun Tzu and others have said), it would seem to imply that martial artists are incapable of honesty.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-64084554791852136572008-07-08T16:07:00.000-07:002008-07-08T16:07:00.000-07:00I think that saving 5-10% is a wonderful idea for ...I think that saving 5-10% is a wonderful idea for almost everyone. HOW one chooses to do it (having the government keep more or not) is just a matter of technique.<BR/>#<BR/>Yeah, I am talking to myself, but when I do, I also consider universals and how I see others operate. This is all first draft, not formal essay.<BR/>#<BR/>I grasp you think I have #5 backwards, but I meant what I said.<BR/>#<BR/>Supergirl! Yes, you're right.<BR/>Forgot that one. Actually, I never saw it. Neither did almost anyone else.<BR/>#<BR/>No, I don't think everyone is like me. But everyone is like the part of me that is like everyone else, just like all ice cream starts with the same base. I reach for the universals, even if I can't always get them. For instance: no one's body disobeys the laws of physics. The specific WAY I implement that, my specific application of diet and exercise, is my ego-shell manifestation, not my essence.Steven Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-39059732524968430472008-07-08T15:00:00.000-07:002008-07-08T15:00:00.000-07:00thank you for this one! VERY VERY timely! Josh, I ...thank you for this one! VERY VERY timely! <BR/><BR/>Josh, I am struggling to understand what's disconcerting. I'm curious because I had a completely different experience reading the blog...Does it matter who he's talking about? I can speak for myself and say it resonated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-74526041180745133812008-07-08T14:59:00.000-07:002008-07-08T14:59:00.000-07:00Steve: I had an experience on my first job that ma...Steve: I had an experience on my first job that made me realize that people are different that each person has to solve their own problems their own way. I was filling out my w4 form and indicating how much I wanted withheld from my check for taxes each week. I had figured out how much I could owe the government at the end of the year and not have to pay a penalty. This way I knew the minimum amount I could afford to have withheld. From my point of view having any more withheld was giving the government a free loan and I would rather have the money earning interest. This was not a problem for me because I was always a saver. Sitting next to me was a coworker who was going in the other direction and having more than the standard amount withheld. I told him he was giving money away to the government and asked him why he was doing this. His reply was that he and his wife were spenders and if they got an extra fifty dollars a week they would spend it and have no savings. If the fifty dollars a week was taken out of his check and he got it back as one big check at tax time they would be less likely to fritter it away. I always think about this incident when I'm tempted to think my solution is best for everyone.Marty Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06465745755940914756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-74025862266789653022008-07-08T14:19:00.000-07:002008-07-08T14:19:00.000-07:00Josh: I've loved cooking since I was 16. I've done...Josh: I've loved cooking since I was 16. I've done the vast majority of the cooking ever since we've been married. Unfortunately I have a habit of cooking what I like not what's good for me. The problem isn't portions either, Sunday I cooked chicken korma. I cut up two breasts, My wife and I made supper out of it and I had the leftovers for lunch today. Maybe I'm wrong, but three meals out of two chicken breasts doesn't seem like gluttony. However, both meals were accompanied by a portion of rice and therein lies the problem. I like rice, pasta, or potatoes with my meal. I'm not big on green vegetables. So, yes if it was important enough for me I could probably at least slow my weight gain if not lose by getting the pasta, rice, and potatoes out of my life, but it isn't worth it to me. Once upon a time I thought about the purpose of life. I came to the conclusion that purpose of life was to enjoy it, while I was here. So I don't go on diets containing foods I don't like and I got my exercise playing table tennis and basketball, because thats the exercise I enjoyed. Those exercises are in the past however, since I am not up to them now. At this point in my life, I have COPD, am on an inhaler, I failed a stress test two years ago, had a cardiocatherzation , and take blood thinners as well as blood pressure medication etc. So my sports days are pretty much over.Marty Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06465745755940914756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-27461869410468412792008-07-08T13:51:00.000-07:002008-07-08T13:51:00.000-07:00love this - "In other words, it might be very diff...love this - <BR/><BR/>"In other words, it might be very difficult to save 5-10% of their money, but it would be difficult to pull your daughter out of a burning building, too. The burning building is your finances. Or your relationship. Or your collapsing health."Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06374485124632046810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-70794896873748069142008-07-08T13:15:00.000-07:002008-07-08T13:15:00.000-07:00It's disconcerting to read "people do X" and then ...It's disconcerting to read "people do X" and then hear you say you're talking only about personal principles. Do you really believe everyone is like that, or is it just you? At this point, I can't understand who you're talking about at all. <BR/><BR/><I>Adults learn how to pull their own strings, to align their goals, values, and beliefs. To know WHY they are doing things, and attach pain to the negative results, and pleasure to the positive ones.</I><BR/><BR/>... which was pretty much the advice I was passing on to Marty - if one form of lifestyle change isn't working, like working out on your own, perhaps you can attach pleasure to working out with someone else, and find a more fun way to do something that's boring in one context. <BR/><BR/>Food is a fairly easy one. Many people I know of who have bad eating habits don't like cooking. Enjoying cooking is something that I think people can learn to do with the right context, and once they learn how to do that, they'll probably eat healthier.Josh Jasperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441897278413737658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-76832713158955828532008-07-08T12:17:00.000-07:002008-07-08T12:17:00.000-07:00I think you have #5 backwards: You cannot lie to y...I think you have #5 backwards: You cannot lie to yourself and be honest with others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-36221915897493068322008-07-08T12:08:00.000-07:002008-07-08T12:08:00.000-07:00Out of context here, but several posts back you as...Out of context here, but several posts back you asked whether there had ever been a superhero movie with a female lead. There was a Supergirl movie in the 1980's. I have a copy on Beta videotape.Pagan Topologisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01611788563582362688noreply@blogger.com