tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post5496571999831425483..comments2024-03-25T17:38:55.490-07:00Comments on Dar Kush: So...what's really going on?Steven Barneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-37365723335559758712007-12-06T08:26:00.000-08:002007-12-06T08:26:00.000-08:00Very nice, Weedlady. You got what I was trying to...Very nice, Weedlady. You got what I was trying to say.Steven Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-13211171396469839842007-12-05T22:58:00.000-08:002007-12-05T22:58:00.000-08:00Answering your question (which was originally goin...Answering your question (which was originally going to be a "good post!" -type comment), I wound up with a post of my own... so, here it is:...<BR/><BR/>http://weedlady.laveda.info/2007/12/is-there-silver-lining-to-being-in.html <BR/><BR/>(Sorry, I tried to make it clickable, but it didn't show up... this is my second attempt)<BR/><BR/>This post was really thought-provoking. Good questions are better than good answers, true?LaVeda H. Masonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03223925698930139947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-19687920434679991312007-12-05T22:46:00.000-08:002007-12-05T22:46:00.000-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.LaVeda H. Masonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03223925698930139947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-53125398486897447522007-12-04T12:53:00.000-08:002007-12-04T12:53:00.000-08:00Can't comment on the most of your post cause it we...Can't comment on the most of your post cause it went over my head. <BR/><BR/>But caring for children and ones parents in their declining years does really change and mature you in a way that all the bullshit self-help seminars in the world can't.<BR/><BR/>Though the maturation process can be exceedingly painful when you watch someone you've known and loved for the last 40 years whither away and die in a painful manner.<BR/><BR/>The loss of a loved one never goes away either.<BR/><BR/>Its just too bad that in our society we hide away our children and seniors. Its as if we are embarrased about where we come from and where we are going.<BR/><BR/>RodgerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-44439496722450785122007-12-04T11:34:00.000-08:002007-12-04T11:34:00.000-08:00Crystal--You underestimate yourself, my darling. ...Crystal--<BR/><BR/>You underestimate yourself, my darling. And always have. We both know what you're dealing with, and I have NOTHING but respect for the way you carry it. You are a beautiful spirit, and it was wonderful seeing you at Loscon. I wish we lived closer.Steven Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-91996455477052277652007-12-04T10:47:00.000-08:002007-12-04T10:47:00.000-08:00I think that caring for one's own parents and one'...I think that caring for one's own parents and one's own children is a good start, and almost certainly more profound than only caring for other people's dependents. However, I think it's even better to be exposed to those roles repeatedly and in slightly different variations. I went with my mom and my grandmother to my great-grandparent's house on weekends and then watched them care for my great-grandfather at my grandma's house. When I was in high school I was heavily involved in helping my grandmother care for my great-grandmother and recently I took care of my grandmother here in my home with my mom coming over regularly to help me. <BR/><BR/>There were some people who thought that it was too much; that it wasn't fair to my young children to put them through the experience of my grandmother's hospice care. I am so deeply grateful that I had the opportunity to share that with them. It is some of the best of who I am that I was raised around careproviding as a living art and not just some high ideal. My daughter grew in leaps and bounds as she helped care, providing love and respect, for her great-grandmother. I think we learn these lessons more deeply if we live them. As weary as it made me at times I wouldn't hesitate to do it all again. <BR/><BR/>Has it gotten me to the higher places Steve talks about? No, not with all the other baggage I'm dealing with, but it has taught me incredible lessons. Having young children gave me an easy excuse to not take on my grandmother's care. As is often the case, what could have been my excuse not to was ultimately the best reason to do the harder thing. That's all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com