tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post2975288055657690414..comments2024-03-25T17:38:55.490-07:00Comments on Dar Kush: Second Chakra stuffSteven Barneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-14257767044043110842011-09-14T13:53:37.811-07:002011-09-14T13:53:37.811-07:00Gosh, there is so much useful data above!Gosh, there is so much useful data above!escorts marbellahttp://escortsite.es/marbella-escortsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-54018966964776136502009-12-07T18:02:45.818-08:002009-12-07T18:02:45.818-08:00Nancy--
What's happening is that you always ha...Nancy--<br />What's happening is that you always have that "defective" tape going on, but when you read my posts, it plays more loudly. Remember: YOU ARE NOT THE VOICES IN YOUR HEAD. I ask seriously: whose voice IS that? Get quiet. Listen carefully. Who is that? To me, you are precious. So you have problems. We all do. All of us. None of us are more perfect than you, trust me. When and if you commit to moving beyond those voices, the resources exist. But I take your comment seriously, and suggest that it may be useful to speak about it with a counselor.Steven Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-81754082461354445052009-12-04T14:26:47.159-08:002009-12-04T14:26:47.159-08:00Hey Nancy,
First always remember that suicide is ...Hey Nancy,<br /><br />First always remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If you are ever thinking about suicide seriously, please call the suicide hot line;<br />1-800-SUICIDE<br />1-800-784-2433<br /><br />But it doesn't sound like you are actually contemplating it, so let me say that when I first started reading some of Steve's posts, when he talked about the importance of having a fit healthy body I had a lot of resistance to it. At that time, I fit the medical definition of obese then, never got exercise, and ate to make myself feel better. When he talked about how important it was to have a good healthy body, how this would make life easier, how members of the opposite sex would find me more attractive, how I would have more energy, how I would live a better life, essentially, it made me feel bad. Why was was what he was posting things that made me feel bad?<br /><br />Well, as I read post after post, little cracks were formed in my wall that I had built, a wall that told myself I didn't want a healthy fit attractive body. <br /><br />Finally, and this was a _crucial_ step, I admitted that I was lying to myself. That despite telling myself, and others, that that I didn't care about my body, I really would have liked to have a healthy body and I was just afraid of the work and effort that it would take to get one. <br /><br />So eventually, the desire to have a healthy body was more powerful than the fear of the work and effort it would take to get one, and I worked, and I strove, and I got one. Statistically speaking, I'm now in the top 10% of body fat in America. I now have a fit active body, and I love it and am proud of building it, and I revel in it. And yet, as little as a few years ago, I had effectively given up on having a good body. <br /><br />To answer my earlier question, the REASON why Steve's posts made me feel bad was because some part of me knew that he was right. Some part knew that the lies I was telling myself were _LIES_. Lies that were stopping me from living a better life.<br /><br />If Steve were making posts about how everyone needed to wear designer clothes to be happy, would that have any effect on you? Any whatsoever? My guess is no, you'd blow it off as BS because every part of you would know it wasn't true. <br /><br />So ask yourself, WHY do the posts about relationships effect you? Why do you care about them? Why do you allow them to impact how you think about yourself? Is it because, like me, you fear that he might be right? That you might have to do work and effort that you are afraid of doing to have what you truly want? <br /><br />If the answer to that last question is yes, then, congratulations, you are HUMAN! Everyone is afraid of various work and effort. The duty you have, as someone gifted with the unbelievably rare and precious jewel of consciousness, is to face that fear as best you are able and go through your Dark Night of the Soul. It's not easy, and it takes courage, but on the other side is everything you truly want.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15753480478689867572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-38689020808067962552009-12-04T11:57:51.258-08:002009-12-04T11:57:51.258-08:00What is really sad is the splintered emotional/sex...<i>What is really sad is the splintered emotional/sexual drives found in men and women who have been abused. I don't have time to go into it now, but it just breaks my heart. </i><br /><br />I'm one of those people who in effect gave up on relationships without getting started. The way you write on the subject reliably leaves me feeling as though I'm so defective that I might as well kill myself.<br /><br />This isn't an actual intention on my part and I'm sure you don't mean any ill, but it's quite an energy drain.Nancy Lebovitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07068537632391466902noreply@blogger.com