tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post2846071016021362100..comments2024-03-25T17:38:55.490-07:00Comments on Dar Kush: Thick Face, Black HeartSteven Barneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-43221255996554572902012-03-08T09:40:13.996-08:002012-03-08T09:40:13.996-08:00For my part every person must go through this.For my part every person must go through this.posicionamiento webhttp://www.pcwebsite.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-2104985277960050212011-04-28T08:35:50.789-07:002011-04-28T08:35:50.789-07:00I love reading your excerpts daily and getting ins...I love reading your excerpts daily and getting insights into things that have helped me elevate my thoughts!<br />Thanks so much! BTW- your writing is awesome despite what people have said, like your mom! Thank you for you!On Livinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11367320177844401375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-88730202427656577752009-10-15T14:38:51.223-07:002009-10-15T14:38:51.223-07:00OK, so is telling someone "This floor is rott...OK, so is telling someone "This floor is rotten, and if you jump as much as you need to for your workout, you may fall through it," negative feedback?Pagan Topologisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01611788563582362688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-68527768303477979182009-10-14T22:56:33.944-07:002009-10-14T22:56:33.944-07:00"Thick and Black" The Shield and the Sw..."Thick and Black" The Shield and the SwordThe New Art of Warhttp://www.thickblacktheory.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-176117137927352652009-10-14T07:34:49.186-07:002009-10-14T07:34:49.186-07:00"I'd bet anything that the most illustrio..."I'd bet anything that the most illustrious graduates were known for their ability to go straight ahead despite fear and criticism on all sides, if necessary."<br /><br />Keep going is good; straight ahead is generally an error.<br /><br />"And if you think that hallucinating about your results (pretending they didn't happen) and remaining focused despite negative criticism are the same thing, then I PROMISE you that you are nowhere even close to your upper potential as a human being."<br /><br />If you think remaining focused despite negative criticism is the same as ignoring negative criticism, closing your mind to it, then I could say the same about you.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04606348439737007635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-59322254835795604852009-10-10T09:29:37.743-07:002009-10-10T09:29:37.743-07:00I think West Point's pedagogy is wonderful. A...I think West Point's pedagogy is wonderful. And telling someone "you can do better than this!" is actually POSITIVE feedback. Saying: "you can't cut it" is not. I'd bet anything that the most illustrious graduates were known for their ability to go straight ahead despite fear and criticism on all sides, if necessary.<br />And if you think that hallucinating about your results (pretending they didn't happen) and remaining focused despite negative criticism are the same thing, then I PROMISE you that you are nowhere even close to your upper potential as a human being. Not even close.Steven Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13630529492355131777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-65768326211782192662009-10-09T23:56:34.470-07:002009-10-09T23:56:34.470-07:00Very interesting post for me today. Have you seen ...Very interesting post for me today. Have you seen the Guy Ritchie film. 'Revolver'. It is not the best film however it deals exactly with what you have been speaking/posting about recently, especially this post. Killing the ego and internal voices that convince us that they and who we are are the same. Between that film, your post, and finally opening up to a new therapist today, I'm making some strides in the right direction.Ashe Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13080539043480727059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-58487705934280107442009-10-08T13:54:07.429-07:002009-10-08T13:54:07.429-07:00What Marty said. Criticism is either useful or not...What Marty said. Criticism is either useful or not useful; negative input is to be ignored. Most of us can tell the difference.<br /><br />Children can't; my 11 year old son wants to be an NBA player. He's a pretty good basketball player, but he's not likely to top 6' by much. I think his chances of reaching the NBA are poor ... but I would never say that to him. I've had a few dreams come true in my life, things other people thought I couldn't do; I'm not going to mirror their negativity to my own children. They'll get enough of that from the world at large.<br /><br />Richard might not be good enough for the NBA. But he <i>might</i> be ... and the pursuit of excellence is never a waste.Daniel Keys Moranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12992599044462413412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-56803122011559212802009-10-08T12:24:08.387-07:002009-10-08T12:24:08.387-07:00I think part of the problem is distinguishing betw...I think part of the problem is distinguishing between criticism and negative input. Where criticism is input on how you can improve and where negative input is along the lines of your wrong and don't have what it takes.Marty Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06465745755940914756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-826792710449241572009-10-08T12:22:54.579-07:002009-10-08T12:22:54.579-07:00I've found these last few posts pretty interes...I've found these last few posts pretty interesting and the responses to the posts even more so. <br /><br />Scott said:<br /><br />"A simple example: I hang out with the Texas Juggling Society Thursday nights from 7 to 10. What stops people from learning tricks is the emotional cost of dropping; people who care too much can't juggle, and how good you are scales to how much you practice and how much drops bother you.<br /><br />Pretending you didn't drop and waving your hands around isn't going to work, though."<br /><br />Scott, I could be wrong here, but I don't think that's what Steve's talking about.<br /><br />To extend what Steve is saying to juggling, you would get things like: 1) "You've always been so uncoordinated, why do you want to juggle?" (This could be internal or external) 2) "Juggling is stupid, why would you want to do that?" 3) "You've been learning how to juggle for x months, years, etc., why don't you just give up?"<br /><br />I don't think you and Steve are talking about the same thing when you say negative feedback (and I'm not saying either one of you is wrong, it's just different interpretations of the same term). Your interpretation seems to be that you get something other than what you want, (you drop the balls you're juggling), or someone gives you feedback on how to get better (start with two balls or even just get the feel of tossing one ball into the air and getting the arc right before you move on to more complex stuff. Trust the process).<br />Steve seems to mean the your own self sabotage or those who are threatened by you achieving success.<br /><br />Again, I've found these posts and responses fascinating. I look forward to reading more from everyone.<br /><br />SteveDavid Tannerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14428680469249520153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-75735932886833256102009-10-08T11:46:00.262-07:002009-10-08T11:46:00.262-07:00A simple example: I hang out with the Texas Juggli...A simple example: I hang out with the Texas Juggling Society Thursday nights from 7 to 10. What stops people from learning tricks is the emotional cost of dropping; people who care too much can't juggle, and how good you are scales to how much you practice and how much drops bother you.<br /><br />Pretending you didn't drop and waving your hands around isn't going to work, though.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04606348439737007635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-58521850911673247292009-10-08T11:35:01.671-07:002009-10-08T11:35:01.671-07:00The courageous approach to negative feedback is no...The courageous approach to negative feedback is not to shut it out, it is to listen, think, and act.<br /><br />If you want to model success, consider successful groups, e.g. students at West Point or Harvard. They get a lot of negative feedback; think Harvard's pedagogy is wrong?Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04606348439737007635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9339191.post-22918263607432573052009-10-08T10:28:38.727-07:002009-10-08T10:28:38.727-07:00I've always liked the metaphor that, instead o...I've always liked the metaphor that, instead of building a wall to shield yourself from emotional pain, you learn how to become a ghost at will, so that the barbs past through you without stopping.<br /><br />Like Zen meditators who hear the sounds in the b.g., but pay them little attention.<br /><br />Paul Simon's I Am a Rock -- rocks feel no pain, islands never cry. Of course, they feel no joy and don't laugh, either. <br /><br />Just a metaphor. Though it comes right from the Buddhist Four Noble Truths.Steve Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12079658447270792228noreply@blogger.com